NLP Anchors are amongst the quickest and easiest ways to achieve a resourceful state. It’s like pressing a button (or fingers together) to turn on desired emotions. They are one of the first techniques we learn in our NLP Practitioner training and often easy to forget once we have a myriad techniques at our fingertips.
As Practitioners we know that an anchor is the link between stimulus and emotion.
So let’s recap… to break and reset anchors:- an intense state is experienced (negative) and at the zenith of that emotion, the link or stimulus is applied and then negative and positive states are experienced simultaneously. We end up dropping the negative and retaining the positive. What we have is a neurological bit of magic.
However, let’s think of anchors in a different way. How many anchors do you have in your life (in the same way our clients will have anchors)? Whilst a stop sign is a good anchor for safety, what are your negative anchors? What is your anchor for being happy? What is your anchor for overcoming frustration? What is your anchor for dealing with grief? What is your anchor for dealing with anger? As practitioners we often carry as many negative anchors as our clients. We owe it to ourselves and our clients to tidy up non-resourceful aspects of our own personalities. How can we successfully teach our clients to move forward if we are still stuck? We arm our clients with techniques Self help is surely the goal.
For this you simply have to employ your creativity. Take ten minutes (no more). OK, so you can chain anchors really quickly with your clients – but this is about you and your own negative markers. Give yourself time to focus on strengthening the memories of both negative and positive anchors. Now do your stuff! You can break anchors so go get them!
NOTE: Anchors often need to be repeated from time to time in order to remain as strong. How about, as a Practitioner, you take time out once a month (e.g. on the first day of the month) to renew positive anchors and tidy up the negative anchors you may have inadvertently acquired.
I came across a great acronym for establishing anchors (sorry I can’t remember where) that you might find helpful to write in your diary for your tidy up day…
“I-TURN stands for Intensity, Timing, Uniqueness, Repeatability and Number of times.”
I don’t know about you, but I’m putting this in my diary for the last day of each month. I’m going to check the notes of frustration I have experienced and if needs be, going to break those negative anchors and change them to positive ones. Good luck with yours!
Dr Jane NashPh.D, M.Ed B.Ed (Hons)
MONKEY MINDPsychotherapy & Clinical Hypnotherapy
Master Trainer NLP, Master Hypnotist
Forensic Investigative Hypnosis Trainer, EFT (Adv)
When coaching an athlete (or an aspiring one) it is so important to establish a strong mindset for independent growth and the internal resources to push through when you can’t be there to support them. Without this their career will be an emotional roller coaster and likely to come to an abrupt and potentially less than graceful end.
An outcome orientated athlete’s focus will be on winning. The flip side to winning then, is losing. So, when faced with a stressful training environment, injury, change in routine or a change of training partner they become stressed, distracted and anxious. When faced with a loss their self-efficacy takes a massive blow, which some fail to come back from.
Conversely, an athlete who is mastery oriented – while still motivated toward success – will consider changes, stress, injury and loss as an opportunity to learn and improve. Athletes who are mastery oriented are not disturbed by outside distractions and their self-efficacy comes from personal achievements – by being better today than they were yesterday. Because of lower levels of stress, distractions and negative self-talk, they also tend to perform much better (and longer) than their outcome oriented brothers and sisters.
Educating a young or fresh athlete on this matter can definitely help redirect them from being an outcome orientated athlete to a mastery orientated one, but it may take some of your NLP tools and tactics to help a seasoned athlete make the transition.
A perfect example of an outcome orientated athlete is Ronda Rousey. Her martial arts career saw more ups and downs than a yoyo tournament. Her tenacity and aggressive, outspoken and controversial approach to the fighting game has done wonders for womens MMA, and helped her win – for a while – but she has suffered some tragic losses in the process of her downfall. While she is responsible for her own actions and internal state, her support team nurtured her bad behaviour and have much to answer for.
On the other hand we have a perfect example of a mastery orientated athlete: Ukrainian world champion boxer Vasyl Lomachenko, amazingly skilled, considered to be one of the most highly rated boxers in the world today, yet incredibly humble and completely focused on bettering himself and staying true to what he values most – being someone worthy of remembering, and his family. He was (and still is) trained from a young age by his father (also a champion boxer) who has a very intelligent approach to training and nurtures the path to mastery wonderfully. Vasyl Lomachenko is a two time Olympic champion, he ended his amateur career on 396 wins to only one loss, which he avenged twice, since then has won professional world titles in two weight divisions and is the current world featherweight champion.
Outcome orientation and mastery orientation, I imagine, would have more relevance to your Life Coaching clients? I’ll leave that for you to decide. A great book to read on the topic is Mind Gains by Health for Life – it’s a great non-NLP NLP resource!
Thanks for reading!
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Other reading/resources:Mind Gains by Health for LifeMy Fight/Your Fight – Ronda RouseyLomachenko documentary: https://youtu.be/PzQfANKBtvs
In my early years of adulthood a close friend of mine became addicted to heroin.
For most of her life she had felt very much out of sync with the rest of the world. She was smart, active, passionate and caring but was very introverted. From a combined desire to connect with others and being so introverted she had a tendency toward obsessive behaviour, anger and social anxiety. By her teenage years she was smoking pot daily – literally all day – and taking a lot of acid every other weekend. She felt rotten inside and was trying desperately to kill the poison causing the rot, with more poison. A couple of feeble suicide attempts later and she found heroin.
Heroin killed the pain and the confusion, killed the doubts and despair, but it eventually started to kill her and those around her.
Still living at home yet she miraculously managed to hide her addiction from her parents, but not her siblings. Her brother didn’t know what to do, so he just kept an eye on her as best he could and hoped she’d make it through alive. Her sister had the misfortune of witnessing her first overdose and alone managed to revive her. When her parents eventually found out, they said that it was like watching their daughter slowly dying before their eyes. She destroyed many other relationships in the wake of her addiction.
She did recover though. One week of unbelievable pain and two more of the pain randomly coming and going – heroin’s dying breaths. And only 3 therapy sessions thanks to the technology that is NLP and the therapist that was using it.
But it didn’t finish there. There seems to be a darkness that follows a recovered addict, for a period of time anyway. For years, every time she scratched her skin her mother would think the worst (heroin makes you itchy), her father was quietly concerned for a long time and her sister was traumatised for years having watched her sister nearly die in front of her, most of her friendships were irreparable.
And that’s the point. Her life had just made a complete u-turn, but those she had hurt were still in the same place. She was either smart enough to realise this or her therapist had encouraged her to repair the damaged relationships or both. While recognising and understanding the pain she had caused others and herself, taking real ownership of her past behaviour and respecting the journey those around her would now be taking, this acknowledgment kept her feet on the ground.
Many recovered/recovering addicts will quickly forget all of the damage they have caused and adopt a holier than thou approach to moving forward in life – viewing themselves as being above anyone who is struggling (there’s a great song about it called The Noose by A Perfect Circle). But people like this won’t go very far if left in this state. They have remained in the drama cycle of an addict, they are just a judger instead of a user, persecutor vs victim.
So be careful when working with addicts, they will potentially be ecstatic that their life has changed and will be blinded by the light of new opportunities. Help them keep their feet on the ground. There will be people around them who love them and are hurting, a bit of empathy will go a long way toward everybody healing.
Amy Spainwww.celestialdragonhealing.com.auChippendale, Sydney0423 610 email@example.com
The religious belief in science.
My brother shakes and neurologically freezes in his hospital bed of a mental health ward. In the dimmer periods of his hospital stay, the family thought he might not recover, he looked like someone spiralling down, and we didn’t know if he could find his way back out. He had been diagnosed with Parkinsons Disease years before. It is unknown whether his symptoms had been caused by long term anti-psychotic medication or a secondary symptomology originating out of a birth trauma. He had no Oxygen for 20 mins causing frontal cortex damage.
A long-term decline of my brother’s human faculties was painful to watch from the sidelines. Over a 20 year period modern medicine maintained his myriad of psychiatric, neurological and behavioural dysfunction.
I hold a Bachelor of Science, Honours Psychology. I had worked in research and the pharmaceutical industry for many years. My life was science, it was my religion. It was how I understood life and the meaning of it. In those science years, I became disillusioned by what I saw. How results were not pure, but moulded by what the scientists wanted to see because it aligned with their expectations. Scientists are humans too, and all humans have the same driving forces for perceiving the world and maintaining their beliefs and values. The pharmaceutical world is driven by their value in profit. Researchers who aren’t in the game for profit are largely driven by personal motivations to support their beliefs.
“There is nothing more we can do for him, he has end stage Parkinsons,” said the top Neurologist in our region. A statement like this is so final. The words, “End stage”. Where is the possibility in that? Where can one find any spirit of life affirmation in those words? My brother looks up to those that hold title in the medical world. For him to receive words like that would mean that it were true. The mind has a powerful influence over the body.
Lucky for him, those words were delivered to family and not to him.
He was bedridden at this low point, unable to move, unable to stand and he appeared to have something that was going to end him soon. Because family is one of my highest values, I rallied the family to support my brother and embrace faith in him walking out of that hospital. I used every ounce of my NLP skill set and mentored my family to use life-affirming language. My husband is a Guru of NLP, but no fancy NLP techniques or Hypnosis could be plugged in because of my brother’s inability to cognitively process and follow instructions.
The other key to my brother’s puzzle was connection. We engaged a body worker, a Cranial Sacral Therapist. Her role was to connect him to life and “will”. Nursing staff were taught to be life affirming as well as his family and friends.
My brother walked out of that hospital unaided by machines or wheel chair. It’s a miracle! Nah, just an open-mindedness about possibility … until it really is the end. When do you know it’s the end? When it happens. Before that, it is only an opinion.
Is my brother jumping around all cured? No. But he doesn’t have end stage of this or that. I am not singling out the Neurologist as a special case; he was merely following his religion of Medicine. Everyone is religious for at least some seconds of every day. The question is, do you catch yourself doing it and do you question it?
B.Sc. (hons Psych), EFT, NLP Masters, Clinical Hypnotherapy.
A couple of nice big words there, so let's break it down.
Clinical - observation and treatment under controlled conditions
Hypnotherapy - hypnosis as a therapeutic technique
Hypnosis - well you have all seen the stage acts, followed by the statement you're not going to make me think I am a chicken, besides you can’t hypnotise me anyway.
So have you ever:-
Driven somewhere and not remembered the trip when you have arrived
Tuned out during a boring meeting or dinner/wedding speech.
Guess what just recalling those occasions, you were in hypnotic trance, it's a natural state and we all do it.
Also we all have that voice in the head that says, I couldn’t do that, what will they say, all the usual chatter that gets in the way.
So all clinical hypnotherapy is, is doing a therapy under controlled conditions that bypasses the chatter in the conscious mind.
Craig Chitty – Psychotherapy and Clinical Hypnotherapyhttp://www.removingconstraints.com.au/
During self hypnosis techniques we worked on the 'yard stick' and ‘control room visualisations for her to isolate and turn down pain. (I introduced the 'control room' in anticipation of using this with guided metaphor for specific future symptomatic relief with regard to Central Core Disease).
We discussed the development of a subconscious other personality (alter ego) who has both spiritual and physical integrity with whom we could work, in the future. After two days of practicing pain relief techniques, the subconscious responded with pain reduction immediately on the activation of the eye movement trigger* and NLP anchors establishing a resourceful state of pain relief.
A combination of NLP, Neuro Relationship Techniques (NRT) and hypnosis focused on preparation for a hip replacement. An internal controller was developed under hypnosis and was given a manual on Anne’s physiological functions. The controller maintained an even body temperature (heat is a problem for Central Core Disease). This helped control pain levels and vital functions, keeping blood pressure normal, temperature stable, moods positive etc.
After a month of training, Anne, removing more limiting beliefs, reduced pain further.
I started with the Limbic system. Knowing that it controlled both striated and smooth muscle systems, I wanted to work on the voluntary and involuntary control of functions. I based my theory on the premise that functions could be influenced using certain conditioning, and in that, the NLP and hypnosis combination could be a tool for physical reactions. Feindel , W & Gloor, P. in Comparison of electrographic effects of stimulation of the amygdala and brain stem reticular formation in cats (1955) wrote that the
"amygdaloid complex, an important structure of the limbic system , together with the reticular formal and the intralaminar systems, is capable or exerting a diffuse regulatory influence on the cortex"
I thought to myself- why not with humans?
Central Core Disease brings with it the possibility of (when under anaesthetic) developing malignant hyperpyrexia – which can cause a hypermetabolic state of skeletal muscle which can trigger hyperthermia, muscle rigidity, and multi-organ failure. Anne had flat-lined on previous surgery attempt so hypnosis and NLP were primarily set to facilitate normal function by the internal controller thus avoiding this outcome. She made it through her surgery easily managing her pain and maintaining a positive outlook.
Dr Jane Nash
Ph.D, M.Ed B.Ed (Hons)
Psychotherapy & Clinical Hypnotherapy
Forensic Hypnosis, EFT
I met Anne at a community Weight Management program I was delivering. She learned and practiced introductory NLP and my own techniques rolled into a four week program. During this time it became apparent that she really needed relief from the intense physical pain she experienced on a daily basis. We agreed to work together to relieve the symptoms in her body. She believed that emotional issues were holding back the body and increasing her pain.
I took time to profile Anne carefully using an NLP & Hypnosis hit list I work from - NLP Profiling skills from Dynamic Mind Works, Sydney which gave me a really thorough plan for language and structure needed for quick understanding and clear communication. NLP Profiling includes the representational system, motivation direction, reason for doing, how the person checks information, what convincer they need, the convincer duration, which affiliation they have, what/who they prefer to work with, their primary interest, how they chunk information, how they view relationships and their personal focus.
Understanding the disabling context of the disease but also knowing that locked emotion can act as a barrier for relief, I used Time Based Techniques (TBT) with Anne focusing on shifting some of the shame and grief and loss that had been in emotional state since her childhood.
Each session was both emotionally and physically draining but through perseverance and teaching her how to go through these techniques when alone, several issues were relieved.. Subsequently, she was able to unlock many other issues. This was a continuous process. She focused on an event, found linked emotion and then worked using the Time Based formula through visualisation.
Anne became able to place the emotion, which was linked to an event, on a tv screen and ended up using a similar mechanism as Richard Bandler's phobia cure - and it was working!
Association for Applied Neuro Linguistic Programming (AANLP)